I began coaching a new client yesterday. This client is with a company that he absolutely loves the product and the company. He left his former company because he didn’t believe in the product and the company did not value its employees or distributors. His goals for the next 180 days are to create self esteem and enough financial resources that he can get married and provide for a family.
Self esteem is self imposed by someone else’s value system, not his own. His father is a well known professional who came from a very impoverished background and put himself through college with no financial help from his family. My client was sent to a very prestigious (expensive) university. He has chosen a path after graduation that has not been the route his family chose. How does he create is own self esteem without using someone else’s value system? If he is successful in his new role, will this give him self esteem in his families’ eyes? Is that the “true” self or someone else’s?
The second goal is to increase his income to change his living standards. Interesting that his passionate motivator is Individualistic with Utilitarian second. This is not surprising that his self esteem will be increased by monetary gain and security. He needs to double his salary in the next three years to meet his goals. Currently his question to answer for the next coaching session is “what can I accomplish at work that will generate a bonus while satisfying my real job”? Stay tuned for the answer!
